Living Organ Donation
Over the past years I have been drawn more and more to doing what I can to help the people around me who need it. It has become something I love. The Donation Gardens was the first truly larger scale project that I was able to get off the ground and since then my path has led me to something very singular, organ donation.
My decision to become a living organ
donor happened as many such things do, in a sweeping motion that
seemed to need almost no effort from myself. I was reading and doing
research online when I came across the Trillium Gift of Life website
and noticed one of the links on there to the living donor page. The
page itself told of the possibilities of the process, yet was very
vague on how to initiate it. I went on my way for a few months, not
looking to the website but always thinking about it.
After these months I decided to put out
an email to Trillium to see what it was about. A day later I had a
response with two email addresses, one for living Kidney donation,
and one for living Liver donation. A day after that I had sent and
received emails from both of the doctors with info for their
respective departments. In a matter of days I had my first
appointments set up in Toronto for testing and the process was
underway, with what seemed to be a will of its own.
The process, which seemed very alien to
me, was not very well documented online and I could not find any
accounts of previous donors about the process of donating itself. All
of the accounts were of the actual surgery and recovery period. I
decided to make a video blog about the donation process, how it
happens, the things that have to be done and the impact one
emotional, social, and financial environments. I have since been
posting these vlogs on Youtube and am happy that some people have
seen them. Hopefully they will help others who are faced with the
decision of becoming a living donor.
I must say that this experience isn't
how I had thought it would be. This is particularly true of people
reactions to this whole process, from my decision to the surgery
itself. Of the people I have told about it only a small handful have
had a positive reaction. The majority of people actually react by
talking at about how they cannot do it for one reason or another.
Another common reaction is saying that it is a bad idea, that Im not
thinking it through, or that I can donate when I am dead! Haha!
The financial consequences of doing
this is such that I may lose my job when I go in for surgery. I
haven't been able to confirm that my employer will keep me on the
books when I’m in recovery, or that Ill be guaranteed any hours
when I am back from the recovery, 8-12 weeks after surgery. There has
also been a withdrawal from some of the closest people to me
financially and physically. It has been challenging in this regard,
mostly because of a sense of loneliness that comes when you are doing
something without the support of those closest to you.
There has been a lot of support during
this process however. My sister has driven me down to the hospital
when I have had appointments, and her friends were kind enough to let
us stay there over night. There is also a very good support system in
place at the transplant clinic whose job it is to make sure you are
doing OK with everything emotionally and financially.
This has been a grand journey for me
thus far. A recipient still has to be found and a surgery date set.
But I am looking forward to the whole process being played out. I
wish every person who is currently waiting for an organ the best and
pray that there will be someone there to aid them in their journey. I
love you and thank you for reading this.
Peace
~Danial McCoy